Topgrading Tips (Vol 5, No. 11) “Good Soldiers” are Dead Soldiers
July 27th, 2010 . by Brad SmartAnother title of this article could be: How to Say No to a Boss Who Has Very Outrageous Expectations
Of the 6,500 executives I’ve interviewed, asking 16 basic questions about every full-time job, fully one-third have failed in a job because they couldn’t say no to a demanding boss.
Meet Hal, candidate for Division General Manager, 10 years ago. I interviewed him, labeled him an A player with CEO potentials, and he was hired. Three months later the CEO said Hal was doing a great job turning the division around, scrapping low-profit products, consolidating plants, and Topgrading. Great – Hal is proving to be an A player!
A year later I had a scheduled follow-up coaching session to help him tweak his Individual Development Plan, to keep him on track to become CEO of this or another billion dollar company. “Cancel your coaching session with Hal,” the CEO said, “because he’s failed; I gave him some additional responsibilities to keep him challenged and growing, but I’ll probably have to let him go!”
“Impossible,” I said, “I’ll keep the coaching session and find out what’s gone wrong, but there’s no way Hal can be failing unless there is some personal crisis or something.”
Long story short – the CEO had tripled Hal’s job, essentially giving him three divisions to run; Hal was working 15 hours per day and failing. I suggested that the CEO narrow Hal’s job to the original Division GM job; he did, Hal succeeded, and today Hal is successfully running a $2.5 billion company, as CEO.
Bottom line, Hal’s CEO was outrageous in expecting Hal to do three jobs, but Hal was a chicken, fearful of saying no to the CEO. Both are responsible for Hal’s failure.
“JUST SAY NO”
Picture yourself in the room with, say, Jack Welch, who says to you, “Pete, we have a problem. We need to send Joe to China for six months and unfortunately he has no back-up. It’s a lot to ask, but would you be a good soldier, a team player, and do your best to hold his fort together for a few months?”
Gulp – how the heck can you say no? “Sorry, Jack, but there is no friggin way you’ll be satisfied with my just holding Joe’s fort together – you’ll expect those three product launches to be successful. And I have a crisis that is already taking me 12 hours per day to address. If I say no this means I’m not a good soldier, not a team player, not an A player, so of course I have to suck it up and say yes.” That might be the truth, but of course you can’t utter those words!
Thousands of executives, mostly A players, have described the agony of taking on more than they could do, struggling, and then failing. The blip in their resume is usually significant, resulting in the next job being smaller. After all, it doesn’t sound A player-like to admit one could not “take on some additional responsibilities.”
HERE’S HOW TO SAY NO
Let’s put you back in the office with Jack Welch, and you instantly KNOW that you’ll either kill yourself or fail if you say yes to him. The challenge is to refuse the overwhelming responsibilities while retaining the respect of the demanding boss.
The thousands of executives who have successfully said no followed this 1-2-3 step process:
1. Be positive. “Jack, I’m honored that you have the confidence in me, and no doubt I’d learn a lot.”
2. Ask for a couple days to analyze the situation. “But, I’ve just reorganized and have complex plans for my job, and I don’t know how complex Joe’s job is. How about my taking just two days to analyze both situations, to be sure I can develop a plan to succeed. The last thing you or I want is for me, a pole vaulter, to promise I can learn the high hurdles enough to medal and then fail. I’ll get back to you Wednesday with a decision and a plan, for your approval. Okay?”
Would Jack want a decision without a brief but thorough analysis? How can Jack discourage a plan to succeed? That metaphor – sports – makes it common sense to try to figure out if someone can do another sport, and do it well enough to medal (succeed). Note that you stayed positive, not using words like “possible failure,” and your attitude was that of a team player.
3. Show confidence. “Jack. I have good news and bad news. The good news is that with my reorg and new strategy, I believe I will turn the division around and the shareholders will benefit. But if I take on Joe’s division, I’ll fail at both. After looking at Joe’s division, I have a suggestion: put Sam, head of marketing, in an Acting GM role because Sam knows a lot about product launches and that’s got to be the focus this year. I’d be happy to help Sam with the financial analysis and Topgrading parts of the job he lacks experience in.”
You’re confident because you did the analysis of both jobs, you looked Jack in the eye and said without embarrassment that you’d fail if you took on Joe’s job, and you offered a positive solution.
ANOTHER WAY TO SAY NO
Looking through my extensive files, I was reminded of an alternative way managers have said no without sounding weak, wimpy. Those managers create a spreadsheet to show their responsibilities and the amount of time they spend in each, monthly, and their “no” sounds like this: “Jack, I have four major projects that are taking 60 hours per week, not just for me but for my team. If I take on this additional project, my team will fail, so let’s prioritize and see which are the most important projects to keep.”
NO GUARANTEES
Obviously the above solutions fail to address the possibility that the boss is truly outrageous in making demands. But if that is your situation, blame yourself for taking a job reporting to someone impossible to please.
All of the executives who experienced such a career failure swore they would a) perform due diligence on bosses in the future, by asking others what they like and dislike about the boss, and b) not accept a job offer reporting to someone with a pattern of having unrealistic expectations.
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